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I love gardening. By far, it is the funniest part of my business and a pleasure to do. But, the one thing I despise is a sudden change in the weather. On a sunny day, I feel like the world is mine. I can take plants from the greenhouse and put them in the soil. I can sit outside of the greenhouse making up new floral combinations and arrangements. Life is good. On a rainy day, life is still going well and I know my farm needs the moisture but something inside of me wants to be outside enjoying a sunny day. Then during a fire season like this year, I am in a constant state of fight or flight. Covering flowers, running things into the greenhouse, and watering everything like crazy so none of my plants will fry and die.

I just took you on an emotional roller coaster. Now think, what is the only common denominator on each of these days?ME!


Tip 1 : You Have To Be Willing To Work On You.

If you are not willing to work on you, feel free to read no further. In every single scenario, I was the common denominator. I attached my emotions to every outcome. One sunny day, I was living my best life. Then the rainy day came, I was actually envious of the rain doing some of the work for me, and during fire season I was in sheer panic. Emotions can change like the weather. You have to be willing to work on you, so you can weather the weather.

Working on you isn’t simply saying “I need to work on X.” It’s writing down what your challenges are and how they relate to how you want to grow and coming up with a plan with steps of how you want to change. It’s ok to recognize and identify the things in your personality that are hindering your growth and holding you back. It’s the first step to be able to work on yourself. Be ready to peel back the layers and dig deep.


Tip 1 : You Have To Be Willing To Work On You.


If you are not willing to work on you, feel free to read no further. In every single scenario, I was the common denominator. I attached my emotions to every outcome. One sunny day, I was living my best life. Then the rainy day came, I was actually envious of the rain doing some of the work for me, and during fire season I was in sheer panic. Emotions can change like the weather. You have to be willing to work on you, so you can weather the weather.

Working on you isn’t simply saying “I need to work on X.” It’s writing down what your challenges are and how they relate to how you want to grow and coming up with a plan with steps of how you want to change. It’s ok to recognize and identify the things in your personality that are hindering your growth and holding you back. It’s the first step to be able to work on yourself. Be ready to peel back the layers and dig deep.


Tip 2: Get Off The Rollercoaster - Don’t Let Your Emotions Rule You


Living this way does not serve you. Emotions are temporary if you choose to let them move past you like cool water on a hot day or a beautiful floral fragrance in the wind. When situations arise that are out of your control and negative emotions come:

1. Recognize the emotion. Acknowledge that the situation is perhaps overwhelming and making you feel insecure.

2. Assess whether or not you can do something to positively change the situation (and therefore your emotion). If there is, great! Go take that active step towards a solution. If there’s not… in the words of Queen Elsa...

3. Let it go! Setting emotions free is the only way you can make room for new experiences and make new memories. You can’t fix every situation every time. That’s ok. Learn to be ok with not being in total control all the time. You can’t change every situation but what you can change is how you emotionally respond to situations beyond your control.


Tip 3: Life Experiences Will Shape And Mold You - You have to trust the process.


Enjoy the journey. I really mean that. Life has a way of shaping us and molding us into something beautiful. When I was 20, I hit the lowest point of self-esteem in my life. Over 70% of my hair had fallen out, I was covered in a head-to-toe rash, and I didn’t recognize the person staring back at me in the mirror. I was at the pinnacle of my professional career in the corporate world. I was young. I had friends. I was fit. I had connections. To the outsider, I had it all. However, internally I was miserable.


Out of that horrible experience, I was able to create Wildling Botanicals (my natural skin and hair care line). I began farming my key herbal and plant ingredients. I was blessed with a platform to share my experience of wellness to reach other people who were also dealing with various health issues. How did all that happen? I acknowledged that something was off in my life. I assessed what I could do to change it and what was beyond my capacity and let those things go. From there I was able to create products that helped heal my body. Through fixing my external body, I was able to start an internal process that supported taking back my life and sustaining long-lasting change.


It’s a long process because living a holistic life is not something you do once and check it off your To-Do List. It’s a daily check-in with your emotions, as well as your mental and physical wellbeing. There are no shortcuts to do that. However, my hope is that these tips give you a blueprint for how you might take back your own life. You’re no longer powerless and stuck on the rollercoaster of emotions controlling you. That way, when the bad weather rolls in, you feel more equipped to weather the storm and live a more holistic life.


Jackie Johnson – Nurturing Self-Care In The Garden Of Your Life


Self-care is very en vogue right now and it seems that you can hardly go a day without an Instagram post or article telling you that you should take a bath, meditate, diffuse essential oils, etc., all of which are supposed to “solve” all of your problems. I did not find this to be true to my experience.


My journey of self-care took me from a 20 year old who on the outside seemed to be thriving but internally was in agony, to a 33 year old whose outsides now match my insides. It all started with a realization: my life was not what I wanted it to be. My garden was in disarray.


The Realization – My Garden Was Full Of Weeds, Covered With Pests, Sitting In Dry Dirt


When I was at my lowest point of self-esteem, and putting myself last on my To Do List, the result was that over 70% of my hair had fallen out, I was covered in a head-to-toe rash, and I didn’t recognize the person staring back at me in the mirror. I was at the height of my professional career in the corporate world. I was young. I had friends. I was fit. I had connections. To everyone else I appeared “healthy and happy.” To the outsider, there would be no reason to think that the wellness of my mind, body, and soul was out of balance because everything “seemed” to be going my way.


By far this was one of the lowest moments of my life and I knew I needed to make some lifestyle changes to foster my wellbeing. My confidence was down and my mindset was in a pure state of desperation to fix my skin, my hair and my health. I wasn’t even thinking about how the result of my lack of physical self-care even related to my emotional wellbeing.

Time To Start Over – Rip Up The Garden, Pull The Weeds And Plant Some Seeds


I started looking at any and every remedy to correct my skin and hair issues. I stumbled upon the holistic world that my heart was always seeking. I overhauled my diet, started meditating, taking yoga and began creating my own body care products. By working on fixing my outward appearance, I was exposed to a whole world that also held the tools of how to help heal my inner world. When my outward lifestyle changed, my whole inner life came into focus and really did change for the better.


Tearing up the garden, removing the weeds in my life, and planting some seeds to better myself on how I wanted to grow was (and by the way, should be) a journey. This was a process and it wasn’t easy and it was like physically tearing weeds up in my actual garden. However, when I started over, it felt liberating. I removed people from my life, which was painful but when I did life got better. I created a good foundation on how I wanted to live my life moving forward. I had space in my life for new people and was able to have true connections. The result of actually taking care of myself was a life that I always wanted with less stress, increased self-confidence and more time for the things that I valued. Oh, and it also helped my hair grow back, resolved the rashes on my skin and I finally recognized the person I was looking at in the mirror again.


Every time you take a walk through the garden and decide it’s time to start digging into the soil and planting some seeds, it is a reflection of your true heart’s intention and values. Shifting your mindset, your surroundings, and your inner being also affects everyone around you. You can finally invite others to join you in the garden because you have some flowers and herbs to share.


Impacting The World Around You – Watch With Joy As Your Garden Blooms


Who knew that in 2009 when I was going through my health crisis that it would result in me creating Wildling Botanicals and clean beauty products that connected my own wellness journey holistically. Moreover, my voyage gave me a platform to touch other people’s lives through Wildling Dreams.


Wildling Botanicals was birthed out of my personal stress, anxiety, low self-confidence and desperation. Every product I now create is formulated from my heart and experience. Every time I receive a testimonial from a happy customer who loves my products it reminds me that I did not go through this valley for nothing.


At the beginning of my journey, I was narrowly focused on healing my physical body, but that was only one part of the real transformation. After taking time to nurture growth in my own garden of life, I was able to have children (which I was told was impossible by doctors). I was able to balance my life and truly seek what I’ve always desired. My personal relationships blossomed. My empathy increased with others around me. I connected with people on a day-to-day basis on a deeper level than ever before.


Every time I have a speaking engagement or interact with people now they can see the new me. They do not see the old frustrated angry version I used to be. All of this practice of self-care and all of this is true wellness is the key to live a holistic life.


So… what state is your garden in?


About The Author




Jackie Johnson is a Holistic Brand Strategist who founded Wildling Botanicals, Wildling Herbs and Wildling Dreams Consulting. Through her businesses, she has created proprietary body care and herbal supplement products from homegrown, clean ingredients she farms herself.


Jackie’s credentials also include a 15-year career in business, helping grow retail, hospitality and fitness companies before striking out on her own to create luxury wellness products she wasn’t finding in the marketplace. She brings a much-needed perspective to the beauty world by joining nature and business together to empower people inside and out.

To find out more visit:


Jackie Johnson

Wildling Botanicals

Owner & Founder

Phone: 720-277-9399


jackie@wildlingbotanicals.com

www.wildlingbotanicals.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiebeautybrandbuilder/ Jackie Johnson: @jackie_johnson_ceo Wildling Botanicals: @wildling_botanicals Article also featured in Cherry Creek Fashion Magazine's January and February 2021 Issue


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